#WhatiThink with Styla (Relationships and Boundaries)

#Whatithink

Relationships and Boundaries..!!

Margins, as most of us are made to inner stand, are borders, a form of separation, a dichotomy pattern, implored to serve as an extent, to which we, as individuals mind our businesses. I.e, in cases of
friendships, partnerships, lovers, brothers, sisters...etc. Wherever there is the need to communicate, to share, to argue, to reach a mutual agreement, all forms of Relationships. This boundaries represent limits, to how far we can share, relate with persons or peoples that we are in any form relationship with.

      As usual, putting myself up as an example, I give to you as much as I receive from you. If you are family, then the conditions sometimes could vary. As the saying goes, "Family is everything". I have a lot of acquaintances, and the boundaries to which I exercise my availability to them varies, like my colleagues at work, I only let them in on what concerns the job, and scarcely sometimes, things I have come to construe through my travels and experiences. There is one guy in particular, who just want to know even the most delicate and intricate part of you, like its a hobby for him, and here is how I put him off, without much stress...."I don't want to talk about it" as simple as giving a peck.      

      Now, people most times, talk a lot, you open up your cavity, and begin to air what you weren't asked for, giving up yourself. That usual phrase or sentence the cops use, when they come to make an arrest, ..."you are under arrest, you have the right to remain silent, for what ever you do or say, would be used against you in the court of law, you have the right to an attorney, if you can't afford one, we can provide you one"... Describes it all, the magnitude of the effect of whatever you choose to share with any body at all. I think in any partnership..relationship, it is veritable that things shared, verbally or otherwise, are what keeps that ship, going, intact, or causes it to capsize, get broken et al.

It is very much wise to know your boundaries in all dealings that you are involved in, and try as much as you can to not be the one to cross it, hence breaking it up.....I think, its proper to make sure, intermittently check, before airing anything.


What do you think?!!!......

@lacstyla